My 2nd baby is already 3.5 months old! It’s fun to come back here and look at my monthly updates for the last baby. I’m going to try my best to document this one month by month as well. It’s crazy just how much they have in common. Around the 11 or 12 week mark H finally started sleeping all night without a feed. Week 10 was hard, he was having a hard time going down at bed time and was waking up constantly. Then miraculously he came out of it sleeping perfectly.
He rolled for the first time about a month ago, and will still do it. This baby has had much better head control from the get go. He holds it 90 degrees on his tummy and has for quite a while. He also never really balked at tummy time unless you leave him a while. He has run into the same issues breastfeeding his big brother did though. It’s funny how around 3 months they all start to fight the breast for seemingly no reason. It was a common theme on my birth month group. Most days he’s cool about it but sometimes he just want to cry and fight it. He calms down and eats after a bit though.
He is currently napping every 2 hours or so and naps far easier then my first child. As soon as he rubs his eyes I know it’s go time. That last nap of the day though can be a little tricky and sometimes all I can get him to do is rest and the breast. In the afternoons while big brother is in pre school I will try and get him to nap on his own, but he usually naps side laying nursing, and sometimes I can slide off and leave him asleep in my bed. We’re doing an EASY routine again, and I don’t have any complaints. He is currently in size 2 diapers, 3-6month clothes, and at last weigh in maybe a week ago he was 13lbs 10oz, and took in 5oz, bringing him close to 14lbs on a full belly.
My milk supply seems far better this time around. My milk took a while to come in but it has been surpassing the oz and hour that I had with my first. Once the baby started sleeping all night I started pumping before bed and then pumping off the leftovers from my morning engorgement. I get about 3oz in the morning after a feed and 5 or 6oz at night, 2 of which I put aside to feed before bed. Just to make sure he is full before he sleeps all night. According to this blog and some of my old posts elsewhere, my milk started declining and going to shit by this point. So much so that I got my period back around month 5. I’m really hoping I can maintain this abundance. At least until his milk needs start declining in month 6.
On the milestone front, he tracks items with his head pretty well, smiles constantly, and has begun giggling. Just today he started being more grabby with his hands. If I put something on his tummy he with move his hands over it and try to clutch it. He does not move the item to his mouth and does not reach yet. I hope in the next month these are milestones he will meet.
The 4 year old is still in preschool, and has good and bad days. He has begun writing his name, putting on socks, and buttoning buttons. He still mostly complains that he can’t do any of these things and refuses to try. He is incredibly stubborn and loves arguing. I’m so tired of him saying he can’t do something that he CAN do or refusing to try or engaging properly. I have been trying to walk him through putting his shoes on, which have a single velcro flap and are no difficult. He whines and tries with 1 hand and doesn’t focus on the task at all, even when I am TELLING him USE 2 HANDS and hold the shoe still. He also can’t keep clean while eating. He still gets food all over the table, his face, his clothes, and hands. It’s gross. He can use a fork but won’t stop putting his hands in his food or flinging sauce all over. It’s hard for me at this point to tell if some of the things he does are because he is 4 or because he has a legitimate mental issue. He continues having obsessive behavior such as hair twirling, scrunching up his face, humming, not being able to control his voice volume, and other random tics that come and go. It’s sad when his teacher tells me all the other kids did something and my son refused to, and then argued with her and yelled, disrupting the class. I’m sorry but I don’t take any shit from my child. He is disciplined and I don’t let him “get away” with anything, yet he still acts like a gremlin with no self or impulse control.
I can’t even blame the “but he’s really smart and just bored” thing a lot of parents fall back on. Yes my child is smart, he knows his alphabet, he talks like an adult, understands somewhat complicated processes, and can remember things that happened last year. But he struggles with fine motor tasks, self care, and emotional maturity. He is the epitome of the dog distracted by the squirrel. Keeping him on task and FOCUSED is a full time job. Honestly I find caring for the baby much easier then the preschooler. I really, really hope the baby grows up into better version of his brother or his big brother grows out of this nonsense because the though of 2 big kids whining all day about how they CAN’T put their shoes or coat on is going to make me go insane.